Sorry long weird rant.
No art has ever had a "common tongue," in reality. It's just an illusion through tradition and reinforcement of culture. People were outraged at Stravinsky when his musical language was -EXTREMELY- conservative by our standards. I mean, people being outraged at something different is nothing new it happens everywhere.
The problem is I think that tons of people even if they enjoy modern music don't believe in it enough to stand behind it. It's always with some bullshit shield of it being "too complex for normal people," or "unreachable aesthetic for regular audiences" or what have you. Well this is bullshit.
I like modern music because I like how it sounds, it's really dumb like that.
And I got into it because someone pitched it to me so that I was curious and began to listen.
Why is this bad? It's like sharing someone's favourite dish, or movie. You pitch it somehow, always. Where's the problem?
If your best friend told you "Hey man listen to this" and you hated it, you'd still give it a lot more thought than if you heard it against your will as part of some stupid mix concert where you were going to see mozart, not whatever was new. In a sense, pitching the music to the audience is friendly and I think it's a nice thing to do for ANY kind of music. I would appreciate it even if it was a style copy.
But then again, I want to support my fellow composers above all else, I want to hear what they think. It interests me.
And honestly I used to think that music had to "stand on its own," and that much can be true for the final opinion you have on something. At the end of the day, I still go back and listen to some of my favourite stuff not because they were recommended (and many times nobody told me either,) but because I think they're great. That's, I think, art standing on its own. But I changed my mind about the concert situation, where I used to think that no explanation was necessary, that people should naturally hear music and judge it based on just hearing it...
But nothing can "stand on its own" if the only chance it has is trying to do some kind of magic trick where people magically fall in love with it with only hearing it ONCE. Specially using very different aesthetic, ideas, whatever. I realized this is impossible. The only way anyone (even me) would get to start listening and enjoying things is by diving into the aesthetic, the ideas, and so on. You can't pretend just by hearing a piece once you can do this, or even by hearing ten pieces, or whatever the number. If the person isn't curious, if it's not sparking interest, then it's just pointless. People also never just "listen" to music, they bring all sorts of scraggy into their perception. They make all sorts of judgments.
I'm guilty of that as everyone else, and to be honest I only got into modern music when a friend suggested I should look for something modern that I liked. And that little sentence turned my world upside down. Look for something I liked? What? But I can't POSSIBLY like all that noisy scraggy! But what if there IS something I like? Maybe I'm missing out? No that's weird. I told him I wasn't sure at the time, but the question tore me up inside since I honestly didn't know.
So I researched, I studied, and I began listening. For months all I did was listen to all sorts of 20th century music, listening to everything I could get my hands on, if it was from the 20th century I would listen. I remember the first thing I did was go out and buy myself a Hindemith CD, because I remember having liked something from him but because it wasn't Bach I told myself it was garbage. I felt somehow that I was kind of "making up" for all my stupid prejudice. And I found his music so amazing, that it inspired me to keep looking and that my friend was right after all.
What was even more retarded about the Hindemith example is that my girl was at the time singing in a choir that did only modern repertoire, and she gave me a tape saying "here's a song I like, it's from a composer called hindemith" and I asked if it was modern music and she said yes. Just by her SAYING that I thought I was certain I wouldn't like it. Fortunately my ears are less of a dumbass than I was. I actually told her I didn't like it just kind of to keep up with my opinion that modern music was trash, even if deep down I was lying to myself but I wasn't sure. I also remember saying stuff I didn't like Stravinsky, when I hadn't even heard a thing he wrote at the time I said that!
Oh, yeah, and the friend I mentioned? He ended up being my first composition teacher in Germany.
But I digress, what I'm saying is, I like to say I don't give a scraggy about my audience when I write my music. This is true. But this doesn't mean that my audience is irrelevant, far from it. They're so relevant, in fact, that I'm willing to do anything outside of changing my musical vision to help them! If explaining the piece will do it, perfect. If they need me to play a couple of chords, crack some jokes, whatever, then fine too. Point is, leaving people in the rain pretending that they're supposed to be cognitive magicians is stupid and we should stop.