Well, I think I'm quite the control freak when it comes to my music. I once canceled a performance because we were unable to get the harpsichord I needed tuned properly to perform my piece, so I just pulled out from the program entirely. So, this is to some degree common, I bet.
Also, you do need to be driven and passionate about your stuff to get anywhere, specially if you intend for people to play your music. And often this also manifests in getting stuff "just right" as well. I don't think any of this is necessary to write music you like, but once it comes to performance and dealing with musicians, if you're driven and detail oriented, in my experience, people tend to actually respect you a little more because you show that you really care about your music.
And if you can communicate that level of care for your work, people pick up on that and they'll also tend to care as well. But like I said, that's just in my experience.