I have this problem quite often. Yeah, it's annoying. And yeah, there's a way around it, but it's still pretty annoying.
If you go to Playback Settings, choose Playback/Record Options... in the lower right corner. There should be a drop down that says Dynamics and Markings. If it's selected as Chase from First Measure, set it to either Reset or Use Current Settings. This is for PC only. No clue what a Mac Finale interface even looks like.
This should fix the crashing, however, this is the perfect example of this still sucking.
You write arco for a violin in measure 46, and in measure 78, the violin is now pizzicato. Play back from measure 52? Pizzicato. Why? I can only speculate that since you're using the current settings, it performs the HP that was most recently submitted. How annoying indeed.
But at least it won't crash. And to me, that's the biggest problem. Hope this helps!